Death by 1000 cuts. That’s what stress darts can do to you even in the best of times. And, as I write this, these are not the best of times. If you are a successful professional or someone striving to be a successful professional, you may be familiar with the results of stress overload induced by a myriad of stress darts. We call it ‘burnout’ and ‘stressed-out’. At its extreme, it looks and feels like immobilization or panic. You may get this overriding sense of doom, as if life is going downhill, and no matter how fast you are spinning you aren’t moving forward. Even with the dread of the virus lingering about, it isn’t any one-thing, it is the accumulation of one small hit right after another.

Below are 15 major stressors that highly successful people experience regularly in life that can add up to this dreaded depleted state of being.

1. Guilt

The all too familiar “should have” and “shouldn’t have” that can keep you tossing and turning at night. We can’t go back and redo the past, so it is best to leave it in the past and get it out of your mind. Try to be present and live life in a way that has no regrets. When you make a mistake (like all humans do), fess up and clean it up as quickly as possible. Then you can more on with ease. If you have trouble leaving it behind, a regular meditation practice can help.

2. Rejection

Rejection happens. Sometimes you get rejected and sometimes you reject others. It doesn’t make sense for everyone to embrace everything all of the time. So sometimes it just isn’t a right fit right now. But when you are on the receiving end of rejection it can hurt. Overcome rejection by understanding the abundance of opportunities and recognize each rejection helps you define and communicate the “best fit” with more ease.

3. Disappointment

You had so much hope, worked so hard, yet it didn’t happen the way you envisioned. No problem, that was just practice for the real deal. No doubt it gives you more clarity about what you are wanting so next time it will fall into place with more ease.

4. Fear

This can stop you in your tracks if left unchecked. Ask yourself, what do you really have to be afraid of. Unless your very survival is at stake, your fear is likely bigger than it needs to be, bigger than real life. Recurrent unrealistic fears can be eliminated relatively quickly through rRest and hypnotherapy. Why suffer through them when you can get help?

5. Over-Scheduled

Doing, doing, doing. Here in Silicon Valley, there seems to be a pervasive belief that if you aren’t busy doing something, then you must be lazy or worthless. Unfortunately, this breads a frantic mentality of false urgency that is short sighted and unsustainable. There is little acknowledgement or respect for self-care. The truth is: you should be the most important person on your schedule because when you take care of yourself only then do you have anything left to take care of others. You might be surprised to find out that there is a point at which productivity increases as the number of hours of work decrease.

6. Multi-Tasking

Undo the ravages of technology on your mind. This isn’t getting easier at the moment. Because of the pandemic, technology is one of our only connections to the outside world. And, social media and other technologies are inherently vying for your attention all the time, distracting us with shiny objects and click bait. Yet, it is common to think that the better you are at multitasking, the better you are. Unfortunately, research in neuro-psychology bares out the opposite. Multitasking makes you worse at everything and drains your creative energy with a spray of stress darts because every time you shift focus you lose time and concentration. The solution is to block off time for a single task, turn off email, turn off Facebook, turn off notifications, turn off your phone and focus on one task at a time.

7. Procrastination

A child of fear. If you are a procrastinator, then you know the damage it does to yourself esteem and productivity. I’ll write more about this topic in another newsletter. The short answer is to face your fear and do the thing you hate the most, first. Then your day will go exceptionally well and you can congratulate yourself for a job accomplished.

8. Distractions

A friend of multitasking. The problem with distractions is that you never feel accomplished. You allow distractions either because you have not planned for your task, or because your emotions of avoidance break your focus while your mind searches for a distraction. To protect you from distractions, mentally give your task value and have a positive expectation for success and completion.

9. Pressure

It could be internal or external high expectations or perfectionism. This stress dart is insidious because it may have propelled you to success and now is your success strategy. Yet over time, it leaves you sapped and struggling. The wound of pressure deepens when there is no acknowledgement of the accomplishment or a focus on mistakes or what didn’t get achieved. Work hard, play hard. Rejoice in your failures because of the clarity they bring and celebrate your successes no matter how small.

10. Uncontrollable

Delays, technological breakdowns, weather … the list goes on and on. There is only so much you can prepare for. Life happens. I am reminded of the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

11. Difficult People

Have you ever noticed how some people can just suck your energy? Sometimes you don’t really know why, but usually it is because of negativity or clandestine attacks. The best way to avoid these stress darts coming your way is to surround yourself with positive people and be one of them. When you are positive and you don’t give energy to the negativity, it is uncomfortable for the difficult people to continue to hang around, so they will gradually fall out or your experience.

12. Financial Difficulty

Money problems come with a whole host of conflicting emotions, not least of which can be powerlessness. Finding clarity and a place of control in these situations can help you feel more empowered, so you can make a plan and take action that will resolve the problem. Having financial security can shield you from a lot of stress darts.

13. Emotional Over-Sensitivity

Either avoiding your emotions or giving them too much stock can be stressful. Rather, embrace your emotions for the information they provide about your experience. Learning how to read your own emotions will build your resilience and increase your comfort zone dramatically.

14. Lack of Health and Vitality

Most people take their health for granted, but as you get older, good health is not the default. You actually have to do something to achieve and maintain it. The good news is there are a lot of simple things you can do to increase your energy and vitality. Eat right, exercise, get plenty of sleep, just to name a few. If you are struggling in any of these areas, seek help. We have answers at Mind Wave Institute.

15. Spiritual Emptiness

If you lack purpose or have a feeling that something is missing in your life, you could be experiencing a spiritual emptiness. Leading a purpose driven life can fill your energy reserves so they are overflowing. What gives meaning to your life?

Successful people develop a comfort zone that accommodates extremes. They build resilience over time. How do you do this? They have self-worth that allows them take themselves or life lightly. They realize that this moment in life is the only one that is real. The past is gone and no longer exists and the future has yet to become. They also have learned how to control their thoughts and interpretation of their experience so that their emotions can guide them instead of get in the way. And they aren’t afraid of the discomfort of their emotional experience so are willing to continually push outside of their comfort zone, there by expanding it over time. They are willing to accept and, in fact, seek out help when they aren’t moving as quickly as they like toward their dreams.

If you feel as if you are dying of a 1000 tiny cuts from unseen stress darts, rRest, hypnotherapy, and the other tools at Mind Wave institute can help heal and disarm them. Schedule an appointment now.

Action cures fear. Do not bask in the vast coziness of unimplemented knowledge.